“The Third Thirty – Making Your Third Thirty a Great Thirty”
with guest speaker, Christ Pomfret. Chris is a retired aerospace consultant, originally from England, but has been settled in Dayton for the past 25 years. The “Third Thirty” is a concept focused on how to age wisely, happily, respectfully and graciously, using our faith spirituality. It outlines the God-given challenges that we face but often ignore. The Third Thirty opens our minds and helps us generate the confidence we need to face and overcome those challenges, whether we are a caregiver or someone approaching our own “Third Thirty.”
The event is directed on any in the Third Thirty (60-90 years old) AND those who have parents or grandparents in the Third Thirties stage of life. The event will be held on Saturday, April 28th starting at 8:30 a.m. with a light continental breakfast. The presentation with Christ Pomfret will begin at 9:00 a.m. and conclude with lunch at Noon. The speaker will be available during lunch for any follow-up questions from those in attendance. Registration for the event is $10 to cover the costs of the event. Scholarships are available, see John Pendergest for more information. This event will be open to the public beginning April 9th! Sign-up now to reserve your spot.
Decisions for the last third of life
By Chris Pomfret
Living fully into the Third 30 years of life can take some preparation. There’s no benefit to ignoring the inevitable lasts and losses that come in this phase, nor does it have to be depressing to discuss or accept these changes.
Instead, embracing the realities of our Third 30 allows us to have the best possible final years of life and to save our loved ones from worry and anguish. Here’s a quick list of things to consider for those entering the Third 30 of life:
Where will I live?
The two-floor, Second 30 family home might not be conducive to our senior years if we can’t tend the yard, clear leaves from the gutters, or walk up the steps. The wise will assess the potential dangers of continuing to live in the Second 30 home. In many cases, modifying the home — for instance, by adding “grab bars” and removing throw rugs — can enhance the home’s safety. Many experts advise having a plan for moving somewhere more compatible with declining physical and mental abilities before an accident or injury forces a quick decision.
How will I live?
Making decisions ahead of time ensures that the last third of life meets the vision we have for ourselves in old age. Many health-care organizations encourage middle-aged and older adults to fill out living wills or other directives that articulate their wishes when it comes to determining how aggressive medical treatments should be. Choosing care options ahead of time means that decisions about life support, resuscitation and power of attorney are yours. Having a living will also can help avoid confusion and disagreements among family members.
What about my stuff?
Do your children really want your beer bottle collection or the four dinner services that you inherited from your grandparents? If not, you can dispose of them on your terms rather than take the chance that someday they’ll be unceremoniously dumped by those who have no allegiance or sentiment to the items.
How long can I drive?
Handing in a license represents a loss of independence, power and mobility. But there are ways to minimize this loss. Rather than assuming independence until death, assume that one day you won’t drive, and reflect on how that will impact your life. Do you live far from others and will you have to depend on people coming to you? How will you get necessities? Before the last day of driving, develop a network of people or organizations that can be called for a ride.
By addressing issues early on in the Third 30 of life, we can head off trouble and heartache for ourselves and our loved ones and maximize our quality of life. Finding the courage, along with trust and faith in God, is fundamental to accomplishing this. Growing older and enjoying a full life is a gift from God, and we should neither be down nor in denial about it. In his book Nearing Home, Billy Graham shares this view on aging: “Don’t resent growing old. Many are denied the privilege.”